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Katherine D's avatar

I’ll also add 2 lists of my own that have helped me and my friends enormously: a list of lessons learned from the relationship (can be good or bad or somewhere in between, potentially for discussion with your therapist), and all the things YOU did RIGHT in this relationship just to remind yourself why you’re an awesome partner.

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Leslie Stephens's avatar

Oh LOVE this!! Especially the lessons!!

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Marlena's avatar

After a painful breakup a year ago, I would sometimes watch this talk a few times a day or in a row. It helped me more than I could imagine. A psychologist, he also recommends making a list called "All the Reasons He Was Wrong For Me," similar to above, and that helped a LOT. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k0GQSJrpVhM

It's a physical pain and withdrawal, and it does get better.

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Leslie Stephens's avatar

Thank you for sharing this!!

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Jenna Britton's avatar

This is such a good method — thank you (and Danielle) for sharing! 💛 My relationship of seven years ended this week, and while it is absolutely the right decision, I am feeling both the pull to return to what's familiar (him, our life together) and the avalanche of memories of things I'll miss. I appreciate how these lists will keep me grounded and help me care for myself as I navigate the uncertainty of what's next. Also, I just love a list 😏

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Leslie Stephens's avatar

Oh Jenna I’m so sorry to hear that!! Always so tender to end a long relationship (especially this time of year, which can be full of so many triggers), but sending you so much love and all the healing vibes! 💕 lean hard into that self care!

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how the wild stays's avatar

can confirm: this method works WELL

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Leslie Stephens's avatar

Hahahah 🙌💕

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Tania Bissett's avatar

Great approach!

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Leslie Stephens's avatar

Right??

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Tania Bissett's avatar

So right. I'm making my lists now!!!

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